Trying to avoid pregnancy and trying to navigate the system to end an unexpected or unwanted pregnancy is beyond anxiety-provoking—it is a mental health crisis. When abortion, birth control and sex education are stigmatized, they live in the shadows, and this becomes a source of even more psychological pain.Team Ovry | Wed, May 11, 22
Our culture places undue pressure on women to become mothers, regardless of whether that is part of their plan. This often leaves those who have children, whether they desired to become mothers or not, burdened with the expectation that they execute family life flawlessly. We look at the intersection of motherhood and mental health through the lens of the film The Lost Daughter, alongside anecdotal stories from mothers in our own community.
Research suggests women actually grow happier as they age, but there are undoubtedly struggles we face as we get older that are relegated to the shadows, making our journeys more difficult. We are often taught to suffer in silence, to preserve the façade that everything is okay, to the detriment of our physical and mental health.
Many single women don’t want to wait to find a partner before starting a family. They’re not letting relationships dictate their ability to become parents. A growing number of them are opting to have children on their own, whether that means seeking fertility treatments, sperm donors or another person committed to starting a family as single partners. Their journeys to parenthood may look a little different, but the outcome is the same. Here’s what four women had to say about why they decided to become single parents by choice.
In Canada alone, one in three women will have an abortion before the age of 45. While women are faced with confronting this decision head-on, it is also an experience men must face, directly or indirectly. This leads to the question: where do men come in to the conversation about abortion?
We are beyond grateful that our community trusts us to share their personal stories. Collectively, we learn through shared experiences and it is an honour to provide a platform for your experiences to be affirmed and amplified. Thank you to this month’s community member for their honesty around being on the fence about wanting kids.
If you’re not baby crazy, you aren’t alone. There are many people who either know for sure that they don’t want kids or who are on the fence about it. Fewer women and people with ovaries are deciding to become parents for a multitude of reasons.